Rediscovering Your Inner Magic: What to do When You Feel Like You’ve Lost a Part of Yourself

Losing yourself feels like an ache you can’t quite place or put a name to. You might not know when it happened because it likely happened in slow, imperceptible increments over time. Somewhere along the way, through the daily grind, week after week, sliver after sliver, your most vibrant self slipped out the door. You might feel a longing to reconnect with your true self, but you might not even know who that is anymore. All you know is that you feel off; there is a quiet longing, an ache…a whisper in your soul that speaks, “Come home.”

When life asks too much of us, a disconnection to your inner self happens.
It might be burnout from caregiving, grief from loss, unhealed trauma, or transitions that happen naturally such as empty nesting, that cause a sense of emptiness, confusion, or even frustration. I want you to know that this is a life cycle. It’s natural to have a liminal chapter of your journey especially during transitional times. Just know that the desire to reconnect to your true self is simply your soul calling. And you can listen.

You are being called inward.

I know the feeling well, when my inner self needs some nurturing. It’s never peaceful, I just feel confused, like I forgot something. I pat my pockets, or wonder if I missed an appointment. But it’s usually because I haven’t been in flow from creativity for a while, or have been in a long period of overwhelm. It feels like a pressure in the middle of my chest that I can’t quite name. I used to think I forgot to pay my bills, but now I know it’s a disconnection with my deepest self. The divine feminine path operates cyclically; there is always a descent before a return. Your soul is calling for your descent. She is inviting me to chat and catch up. Here are a few ways that I suggest for reconnecting with your inner magic.

A Few Gentle Practices to Remember Who You Are

~Before you do all the things, like journaling, pulling cards, etc. just find a quiet place and sit with yourself for a few moments. Close your eyes, breathe and say hey to your inner self. Let the thoughts come and go. Don’t try to control anything, just be. Stay curious, nurturing and loving. See what comes up. Simply reconnect with yourself. Even five minutes will create a foundation.

~I know everyone in the world tells ya to light a candle and journal. And I’m going to tell you the same thing. Because first, the candle serves to ritualize and create a boundary for the ten or fifteen minutes you have to engage the inner self, and second, journaling gives the detritus of your ruminative thoughts a place to go. Don’t try to write anything special or good. Just take a prompt and go. 

Here is a good one: “What part of me is asking to be seen today.”

~Tarot and oracle cards are great companions for journaling exploration. Just pick one from a deck you find pretty. If you don’t have any decks, there are tons of good tarot and oracle apps in the app store. You can draw a card on your phone. You can even write in your notes app. Don’t over think it.

~Take a walk. Listen to what your body is trying to tell you. I’ll be honest, everytime I take a walk these days I’m completely distracted by nature and get wrapped up in the beauty of it all. But if you are feeling a little lost in the soul, just feel your feet, breathe and go slow. If you have mobility issues, sit outside if you have a place to and go back to the first suggestion. 

~Create a mood board, or mini alter with objects or images that reflect your soul. Or clean out a drawer so you can pull it open and see your favorite things. These objects are things you can use as intuition portals as well. They should represent what your soul is calling you to engage with. Something beautiful, creative or loving.

You are magic—even if you feel a little lost.
As a reminder, healing is cyclical, not linear. Reconnection is quiet and slow. But it’s sacred because by doing this gentle work you remind yourself that this magic lives within you. She is always waiting for you to come home. 

If you are in the middle of something messy, know you are not alone. Starting new chapters is hard. What part of you is most wanting to come home?

If you need support, I offer tarot and oracle readings, and coaching.